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  • First Acceptance, Then Pride.

    We talk a lot about acceptance in the LGBT community. We are working hard to ensure our own acceptance into “mainstream” life, we consider ourselves an open and accepting group willing to come together will all sorts of different people from all over the spectrum of sexuality.

    But I think before we can even begin to work on either of those things, we must first learn to accept ourselves.

    Fully, completely, with all our flaws.

    This is a highly personal thing, and it can be hard. We are bombarded with images of what we should be, how we should act, what we should wear, eat, care about… We face being bullied for being ourselves. We encounter discrimination, hatred, danger, and ignorant people who can make our lives miserable.

    It can be hard to be proud of ourselves. It can sometimes seem like all we are is a mess of flaws, a pile of disjointed puzzle pieces that don’t fit together let alone with anyone else.

    First acceptance, then pride.

    I went swimsuit shopping over the weekend. I needed a new suit because I have gained a good twenty pounds in the last two years making my two piece skimpy suit no longer a possibility.  (At least not a comfortable option.)

    As I stood in front of the mirror deprived of my long flowing skirts, my jeans, my loose fitting tops and chucky cardigans or earth mother flowing sundress… when I stood there, I was forced to look at myself, my whole self. I had to accept the thighs that aren’t nearly as muscular as they used to be. I had to come to terms with the slightly lumpy pale legs and the poochey stomach.

    Ultimately, I found a suit that I think doesn’t draw too much attention to my legs and tummy… (a skirt bottom and a full not super tight top)… but that also accentuates a part of me I love: my boobs.

    The lesson I took away from this was that only after accepting my flaws, letting them be a part of me, could I move on to dwelling on what I do really like about myself. Accepting yourself means doing both things. Being honest about all of yourself: bad and good.

    We all have things we don’t like about ourselves, but we also all have our own unique sparks. Accepting ourselves for who we are, the full package, is important.

    I encourage you as we all gear up for Pride, to remember to have pride in yourself. Not just for being part of this community, but for being who you are, warts and all.

    I am Kaylia. I am complicated and full of contradictions. I cry during commercials. I hate slapstick. I am afraid of the dark. I am ticklish. I don’t clean the bathroom, like ever. I am energetic and outgoing. I bite my nails. I give great back rubs. I have been known to gossip. I can be extremely loyal. I make great homemade bread. I have lumpy thighs and a chubby tummy. I have a nice pair of boobs and a ready smile. I have funny shaped toes. I have strong arms. I get too loud when I drink. I often don’t know the “right thing” to say. I muddle through.

    I have flaws.

    I am human.

    I am happy to be here.

  • EVENTS: North Tower Circle Pride Parties

    The NORTH TOWER CIRCLE has a Pre-Pride Party on Friday night with special guest Chip Tanner & a Pride Party Saturday Night after the Parade and Festival with the Ladies of Seduction and an Andrew Christian Underwear Fashion Show...all hosted by DivaLicious...check out the fliers for info...

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  • VIDEO: Pride 2011 First Videos

    Click on the links for websites and videos...

    The FRESNO RAINBOW PRIDE PARADE & FESTIVAL is a week away...in the meantime, Pride 2011 is already kicking off around the globe... Gay Pride Birmingham took place in late May...as well as Gay Pride 2011 Bruxelles ...and Belgian Pride 2011... South Beach Florida held their Pride in April, probably to try and beat the heat...and here's some pretty amazing footage of Dan Choi getting arrested at Moscow Pride

  • A Tree Grows in the Tower: Community Link's Tree Dedication to the LGBT Community

    This morning a dozen supporters gathered at the corner of Fulton and Alhambra to take part in a tree dedication.

     

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  • Weekly Round Up for Friday May 27, 2011

    Summer is just around the corner! Are you ready for Memorial Day? I still need to buy food, decorations, a swimsuit,… a BBQ… Yep. Summer sort of snuck up on me. How about you?

    Speaking of something that is sneaking up on us… Pride is just over a week away! Don’t forget Dine Out for Pride… click here for a coupon… a portion of your bill will be donated to Rainbow Pride.

    Also, click here to find out how you can be part of the Parade and here to help us out with a MUCH NEEDED donation.

    And now… on to a few note worthy news bits you might have missed…

    In order to combat the research that suggests that gay, lesbian and transgender patients were more likely than others to avoid medical care because they feared encountering unsympathetic or even hostile health care workers, New York’s Health and Hospitals Corporation, which runs public hospitals, with the help of an advocacy group, the National LGBT Cancer Network has decided that it needs to reduce the likelihood that such awkward, inconsiderate, questions, and has put together a training program for the staff.

    In Maine, a gay couple won Prom King and Prom Queen

    Scotland’s largest Protestant church will now allow gay and lesbian clergy.

    An action alert by the HRC sent so many emails to the Minnesota Senate that their servers crashed. The gay marriage amendment is set to be voted on by the Minnesota public in 2012.

    A lot of fuss and attention has been paid to the recent Gallup poll that showed “the majority of Americans support same sex marriage.” Just a word of caution… the sample size was small and the questions were about the validity of same sex marriages. Many activists warn to not over-celebrate as of yet. This fight is FAR from over. Still, it is an optimistic trend.

    I know a lot of our faithful readers are aware of the situation in Tennessee. But besides the flurry of attention the media has been giving to the “Say No to Gay” campaign, something else has happened that we need to be aware of. The legislature quietly passed the equally odious "Special Access to Discriminate" bill, forbids municipalities from enacting any anti-discrimination ordinances that are broader than state anti-discrimination laws. The law doesn’t actually refer to members of the LGBT community, but the state’s current anti-discrimination laws do not include them. Read more here.

    On June 1st Illinois becomes the sixth state to allow civil unions.

    And lastly in the “not related but how can I resist” category… this news story about a woman arrested while driving and shaving her privates is funny and then a bit sad and then funny again.

    There you have it. Have a great, and safe, weekend… and Happy Memorial Day!

  • FRIDAY: Street Heat on KFCF Highlights LGBT Community

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    On Friday, May 27th, Dan Waterhouse - Freelance Journalist & Photographer, and Chris Jarvis and Kaylia Metcalfe of Gay Central Valley, will be guests on the local radio show Street Heat, which is broadcast on KFCF 88.1

    The radio show runs from 5-6PM. Dan, Chris and Kaylia will discuss the upcoming Pride Parade and Fresno's LGBT Community Center during the first half of the show.

    All three have also made contributions to the June issue of Community Alliance , on the issues of Fresno Pride, the LGBT Community Center and the state of the LGBT Community in the Central Valley.

  • CALL FOR PAPERS! GLBT+ Anthology Project of United Student Pride

    There is still time to submit your story relating to your experience with Gay, Lesbian, Bi-sexual, or Transgender (GLBT+) issues!

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    Due to several requests for the postponing of the submission due date, the new deadline now is AUGUST 1, 2011.

    We will be happy to accept submissions from anyone who has a story to share!

    The anthology will focus on various issues revolving around the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender experience. Stories will be compiled in a GLBT+ themed publication that will be made available this fall.

    Details for GLBT+ Anthology Submissions:

    • 1,000 word maximum
    • Coming out stories and/or GLBT+ issues
    • Allies GLBT+ support stories
    • Poetry
    • Fiction/Non Fiction Prose
    • Artwork (size will be formatted to fit publication)
    • Must pertain to GLBT+ issues
    • Contributors do not have to identify as GLBT+
    • Due Monday, August 1st

    Once again, this is a great opportunity to share your experiences with others and have a voice on your college campus.  Contributors whose submissions are selected will be included in the anthology and be made available in a publication next fall.

    Please visit: http://unitedstudentpride.yolasite.com/ to download the submission file.

    For more information, or to inquire about the suitability of a piece, call (559)285-0795 or e-mail zoyer_zyndel@yahoo.com

  • HELP with Fresno Pride Parade & Festival Unexpected Charges

    The economy is effecting everything, including this year's Fresno Pride Parade & Festival. Not only are donations and support down, but new, unexpected expenses are facing Community Link and it's efforts at hosting Fresno's biggest LGBT event.

    If you have not already joined Community Link's efforts by helping out financially, renting a booth space, sponsoring a parade entry or purchasing an ad in the program, we urge you to do so right now. Deadlines are on top of us as Pride is ONLY 10 DAYS AWAY.

    Gay Central Valley increased our donation to the Pride Parade this year by more than 200%. Please do what you can to help out Fresno Pride...

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    From Fresno Pride's website...

    UNEXPECTED EXPENSES - ADDITIONAL CASH URGENTLY NEEDED

    We were just informed by the Fresno Police Department that we will be charged an additional $1,600 for their services during the Parade. Topped with the county's requirement that we rent a $400 three-compartment sink for our food booths, it means that we're at least $2,000 short in our budget because of the unforeseen expenses.

    If you can help us cover this gap, or make a donation towards it, contact us TODAY! Ask for Jeff - (559) 486-3464.

    Seeking Donations of Services, Products, Merchandise, Gift Certificates!

    We need your help!

    We need money!

    Please send some today!

    We are "Legally Proud." We are turning 21 this year and would like to put on a fabulous birthday Party for the whole Community!

    Send your donation to Community Link @ P.O. Box 4959, Fresno, CA 93744 or make a donation via PayPal (click on Donations).

    If you are unable to support Fresno Rainbow Pride with a financial dontaion how about a donation of services, merchandise or product that we could use as raffle prizes at our fundraiers?

    A Donation of your time would be grand as well. Come help us plan the pride celebration, we meet every Wednesday night at 1055 N. Van Ness Ave, (on Wednesdays May 4th and June 1st meeting will be held at Starline, 933 E. Fern) or volunteer the day of the Parade & Festival. Pride Day volunteers can sign up on our website.

    We could use donations of services, products, and merchandise for raffle prizes for these upcoming fundraisers. We are also working on possible three other fundraising shows.

    Please support our Fundraisers (click on EVENTS )!

    Send your donation to Community Link @ P.O. Box 4959, Fresno, CA 93744 or make a donation via PayPal (click on Donations).


  • Shop, Swipe, Support!

    Have you ever thought “Gee, I want to support Gay Central Valley or Gay Fresno, but I just don’t have any extra money…”?

    It is understandable, after all, the economy is still circling the drain, unemployment in Fresno is hovering around 20%, and as many of our local supporters and college students on tight budgets can attest to, it can be hard to donate money, even to causes you feel passionate about.

    Solution!

    Do you shop at Savemart or Food Maxx? Did you know that they will donate 3% of your shopping bill to Gay Central Valley if you swipe your SHARES card before you pay?

    It costs you nothing, all you do is swipe the card (which is free to get) before you pay and the store will do the donation automatically.

    Again, the cost to you: Nothing

    Potential donations to Gay Central Valley: Well, that depends on how much you buy, but the point is, there is no cap and it is a quick and easy way to support the organization. Every little bit helps.

    You can pick up a SHARES card at the Fresno LGBT Community Center (1055 Van Ness Ave Suite C, Fresno CA 93728) during business hours, call 559-325-4429.

    Pretty nifty eh?

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  • Coming Out Stories...Leon Velasco

    My Final Coming Out

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    I had a wild teen life. I was doing both guys and girls but I knew deep inside that being with guys was more stimulating than being with girls. In my long stretch of sexual activity in search of which side to finally make my decision of which side of the fence was more to my liking; I had told certain family members that I was thinking that I was preferring guys over girls. I was told many times, "It’s just a phase you’re going through."; little did they know that it only made my decision that much more difficult to make. At age 19, I had become a parent to my daughter, I played the hetero dad (forced by society’s and family’s view of norm). A couple of years later while still in the sexual strive for determining and acceptance, I had become a father to a son. Things between females and I were just NOT in my future as far as sexual and love partner. I decided to finally come out and lock the door behind me for good; then throw the key as far as my arm can throw it.

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    In April, 1997 There was a television series that was going to make television history for all past, present, and future LGBT person to come out and be proud of who we are. This was one tidal wave I wanted to ride and not let anyone or anything deprive me of my final self-discovery. I had determined to have my mom and grandmother sit in front of the TV with me and watch a TV show that would have a VERY important message.

    I had made dinner early that evening for the both of them so we can just sit and chill until my "BIG MESSAGE" TV show came on. The evening of April 30, 1997 was to be the most life changing time for me. Then it became time for The Ellen Show the; ALL important, "Puppy Episode" was starting. I had the jitters all up until the starting theme song. As we sat there quietly watching; I had many thoughts of backing out and living in the closet. Then I questioned myself; "Do I REALLY want to live a life of lies and ruin other people’s lives in the process from all my deception?" Then IT came, the very scene I wanted my mom and grandmother to see. Ellen and her friend in the airport lobby. I told mom and grandma to listen up, as I put up the volume to the TV. "I’m gay" seemed to take a long time echoing in my head. When it was on a commercial my grandma asked me, "What was I supposed to see?" My mom got up very upset and angry all rolled into one and replied, (in Spanish) "Don’t you get it? He’s a Homo!" and she stormed out the room.

    It’s been several years, several drag performances, and several boyfriends later; I am still OUT of the closet. I kept my promise to myself to never return, look back or regret. My family has now come to grips with my sexuality and at times even ask; "Now that you have a grandchild are you Grandpa or Grandma?" My only reply is, "It depends if I’m in Drag, or not."

    June is national Pride Month...Submit your coming out story to Chris Jarvis at chris@gaycentralvalley.org

  • Pride Parade.... How YOU Can Be A Part!

    Pride is just around the corner and if you are looking for a way to get involved and show your support… well, you have options, options, options…

    The Details. The Parade goes from 10 to 11am on June 4th. After the Parade, volunteers are encouraged to enjoy the rest of Pride.

    What we need: Marchers, Actors, Costume Loans.

    Marchers wear matching tee shirts and arm bands (provided). They pass out candy and handouts to the crowds. If you are interested in being a Marcher, contact Jason, Jason@gaycentralvalley.org You will be asked to meet up at Palm and Olive at 9:30 am on the 4th.

    Actors: (Very little actual acting required.) These are the brave souls who wear costumes while marching! We need the following costume wearing supporters:

         *Gay Marriage Supporters: Dress as a Bride or a Groom! (You can sign up for this in pairs or let our fabulous coordinator find you a “match.” (Needed: 4-6 more volunteers)

         *Don’t ask Don’t Tell Repeal Supporters: These volunteers get to wear military type costumes to show support for our brothers and sisters in the Armed Forces. (Needed 6 or more volunteers)

         *Colors of The Rainbow! These 6 marchers showcase support ofr our awesome LGBT Community Center by wearing solid colored tee shirts (provided) that match the Gay Central Valley group of Gays… Gay Fresno, Gay Visalia, Gay Merced, etc. (We need 5 more volunteers for this!)

    We need people to commit to these categories. Only by having a swell of supporters, a large cohesive force, can we make the splash of color and excitement that we need.

    Costumes will mostly be provided, but….

    If you have costumes or costume pieces that you think would be useful, we would love to BORROW them for the event. We especially need military uniforms.

    If you are interested in being an Actor or have a costume / costume piece to loan, please contact Kate kate@gaycentralvalley.org

    Please pass on this information to your friends and supporters in the area, and thank you in advance!

  • Calling Foul on Athlete’s Gay Slur

    By now you might have heard about Chicgo Bulls center Joakim Noah who was caught on video tape dropping both the F-Bomb and an anti-gay slur after getting a second foul. He will probably end up paying a fine similar to the $1000 fine paid by Kobe Bryant for use of the same anti-gay slur.

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    This is sad and frustrating considering the recent pro-gay sentiments aired by many in the sports world, at least recently. However, what Noah’s words do is remind us that though we have made progress towards acceptance, we still have far to go. What I, personally, found very telling was how Noah explained himself:

    “It’s very disappointing. I apologize if I offended anyone, I was just caught in the moment. A fan said something that was disrespectful toward me, and I responded. I have to take the consequences like a man. It was just a bad decision on my part.’’

    First off Mr. Noah, “if” you offended anyone?

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  • Quick Note: The NY Times Spotlights Stories from Gay Teens

    The New York Times is doing something amazing this week… They are spotlighting LGBT youth with stories of coming out, hardship, and hope.

    Check it out here and don’t forget to click back every day this week.

  • VIDEO: Christians Get It Wrong Again

    It's easy enough for "run of the mill" Christians, those who've adapted their beliefs to what's currently acceptable ("believe in a mythological god, but don't necessarily condemn such things as the mingling of the ethnicities or homosexuality, because the numbers don't skew so positively to that anymore...") to join in the mocking of the mass that predicted the world would end on May 21st, 2011.

    The May 21 prediction came from the Biblical numerology of Harold Camping, an 89-year-old televangelist who owns the Oakland, Calif.-based Christian Family Radio network. Camping had previously predicted a similar end-times scenario in 1994.

    This isn't the first time this has happened, or the second, or the fifth or the fortieth...people have been predicting the end of the world for thousands of years. No one has ever come within a million years.

    Despite that most of those in this video aren't that devoted to the idea, it's interesting to watch people explain that, although they were previously confident, that they may have miscalculated.

    "I guess no man knows the day or the hour," said Peter Lombardi, a 44-year-old from Jersey City, N.J. who had had taken an "indefinite break" from his job in April to preach about May 21.

    Mark their words though, the end will come. And, of course, it will. The earth is doomed, on a grand scale. It will happen long after we're all gone, billions of years from now, when our sun will, in fact, destroy itself, obliterating our planet, just as scientists have predicted. Unfortunately for those capitalizing on theology, it will have nothing to do with religion or faith.

    Of course, after the barbecue, no one will be around to tell the ashes that they never understood anything .

    Lombardi had donated $1,100 to Family Radio in recent months to help the organization purchase thousands of billboards and other ads throughout the country, but said he doesn't expect any of his money back.

    "What can you do?" he said. "I don't think they were scamming me, but I am definitely waiting to see what they say Monday on the radio show."

    "It's not [Camping's] fault," said Ramsey, who added he also won't ask for his money back. "Nobody held a gun to my head. I read the Bible. The math added up. I don't think anybody would do something like this without meaning it."

    This is fun stuff to watch. It's so easy and they're so wrong, but we shouldn't lose sight of where this all comes from and how poisonous mythological belief is. Faith, as I've stated a dozen times before, is "the belief in something for which there is no proof". Ask yourself, if you're a Christian, and particularly an LGBT Christian, trying to gain civil rights in a country where those of faith and those who feed off those of faith (politicians) are the only ones standing in your way, why a "belief in something for which there is no proof" is something you've decided to be proud of.

    Or just watch the video. Then tell me that "Oh, those Christians are crazy, that's not real Christianity".

    Really? Have you read the bible lately? But then, Progressive Christians, or whatever they're calling themselves these days, have decided, as millions have decided before them, in varying degrees, that the bible, and Christianity, is up for interpretation. Interpretations which allow "those of faith" to hold onto ludicrous and self destructive premises just because they give them a warm, comfortable feeling inside.

    Although, so does sitting by a stream and enjoying the quiet. So do any number of anti-psychotics or anti-depressants. So does a belief in a pretty fairy tale that almost anyone will pat you on the back for, without debate.

    We all make our choices.

    Highlighted Content Courtesy Huffington Post


  • VIDEO: ABC 30 Profiles Rainbow Delegation

  • Upcoming events at the Fresno LGBT Community Center

    Art Night at Fresno LGBT Community Center

    Friday, May 27th 2011, 5pm – 7pm

    Let your IMAGINATION run wild!

    Join us for a fun evening of arts and crafts. Get creative, express yourself, and inspire others through the arts. We will be getting crafty with construction paper and creating fabulous flowers and flower bouquets.

    Come out and let us know what YOU want to do in the future and how often!

     

    Health/Wellness workshop at Fresno LGBT Community Center

    Saturday, May 28 · 12:00pm - 1:30pm

    BACK BY POPULAR DEMAND! LAST MONTH WE RAN OUT OF CHAIRS!

    Tapping into Your Best Self: Discovering Emotional Freedom

    ◦Do you find yourself thinking about the past and holding onto negative emotions like sadness, hurt, anger, or fear?

    ◦Do negative emotions keep you from feeling good? Would you like to learn a quick and simple practice that allows you feel better in minutes?

    ◦In this introductory workshop, you will learn what the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is and how to use it to free yourself from emotional blocks that keep you from being your best self. There will be an opportunity to try EFT and experience the benefit of this practice.

    Space is limited, please only RSVP "Yes" if you plan to attend. Thanks.

    About the Presenter: Leslie Weiser, Psy.D. is a Clinical Psychologist in practice at the Student Health Center, California State University Fresno (CSUF). Leslie earned a master’s degree in Counseling Psychology in 1986 and a doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 1999. She has previously worked in college counseling centers and in community mental health clinics serving low income people with serious mental health issues. Leslie currently provides services for students at Fresno State, including an LGBT+ personal growth group called Common Ground; she is also chair of the Allies Network Task Force, a group working to create safe space on campus for LGBT+ students.

    Do you or someone you know want to do a workshop, regular activity or have suggestions for the center? Please let us know!

    Fresno LGBT Community Center
    1055 N Van Ness Ave., Suite C
    Fresno, California
    (559) 325-4GAY
  • Weekly Round Up for Friday May 20th

    Happy Friday!

    So… there might be a rapture tomorrow evening. But just in case, many Fresno-ians (Fesnites?) are planning on taking part in this local event that looks like fun. (Beware the street closures and parking mess on Fulton over the weekend.)

    Here's some news worth noting from around the LGBT community... 

    The San Francisco Giants , still celebrating their World Series win of 2010, just announced that they would be contributing an “iconic” video to the “It Gets Better” project making them the first professional sports team to do so.

    The CA Senate Passes Bill Requiring LGBT Culture Competency Training for Healthcare Providers which will require that healthcare professionals receive training on providing care that meets the specific medical needs of the LGBT community.

    After a three decades of debate, the Presbyterian Church has opened the door to openly gay persons in same-sex relationships for ordination as ministers, elders and deacons.

    In Minneapolis Presidential Candidate Newt Gingrich was covered in glitter by a protester who said, “"Feel the rainbow, Newt. Stop the hate.”

    Rhode Island's House of Representatives on Thursday overwhelmingly passed legislation allowing gay couples to enter into civil unions after a last-ditch effort to revive gay marriage legislation failed.

    Tonight ABC affiliates broadcast their show “What Would You Do?” with a gay family twist. A waitress is openly rude to actors portraying gay parents in a crowded Texas restaurant. The responses of the other patrons is resounding as they put the bigoted waitress in her place.

    The audio for Lady GaGa’s new single “Hair” can be found here.

    And lastly something meaningful to tickle your funny bone from Goerge Takei, who promises us, “It’s okay to be Takei!”

    That’s all for me… have a fun, and safe, weekend!

  • HIV Awareness

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    HIV Vaccine Awareness Day -- May 18th

    Today is HIV Vaccine Awareness Day (HVAD). This annual observance is a day to recognize and thank the thousands of volunteers, community members, health professionals, and scientists who are working together to find a safe and effective HIV vaccine. It is also a day to educate our communities about the importance of preventive HIV vaccine research.

    Why is there a need for a vaccine to prevent HIV/AIDS?
    Data from countries with ongoing HIV/AIDS prevention and/or treatment and care programs demonstrate that these initiatives alone are not enough to end the global epidemic. What's more, we know from history that no major viral epidemic has been defeated without a vaccine.

    Why is it important to learn more about HIV vaccine research?
    HIV/AIDS is one of the most serious health threats of our time – especially for people of color. One in every two people living with HIV in the U.S. is Black. And that doesn’t include those who may be infected and don’t know it. Additionally, more than 200,000 Latinos in the U.S. and Puerto Rico are currently living with HIV/AIDS. In fact, Latinos account for the majority of diagnosed AIDS cases within one year of testing positive for HIV.

    Finding a vaccine is our best hope for preventing the spread of the disease. However, unless more people of color begin to support vaccine research, an AIDS vaccine may never be found. If we don’t see ourselves as part of the solution, the AIDS epidemic is only going to get worse.

    It’s time for everyone – especially African Americans and Latinos – to come together and end the AIDS epidemic once and for all. You can play a very important role in helping to stop the spread of HIV in your community by simply educating yourself and others about HIV vaccine research.

    An online tutorial called “Introduction to AIDS Vaccines” is a great place to start learning about it. So please take a few minutes to view the tutorial here: www.nmac.org/vt/en

    Get educated about AIDS vaccines and pass the knowledge you gain along to others. Thank you for helping to stop AIDS.

    To read NMAC's Spring 2011 HIV Vaccine Research Newsletter, click here »

  • The SF Giants and "It Gets Better"

     

    The San Francisco Giants are going to make history... and it has nothing to do with another World Series.

    It was announced earlier this week that the team will come together to create a "It Gets Better" ad.

    As we all know, the "It Gets Better" ads are the brainchild of Dan Savage... the campaign is intended to provide "hope for lesbian, gay, bi, trans and other bullied teens by letting them know that 'It Gets Better"

    A campaign by SF resident Sean Chapin asking the Giants to be part of the game changing trend of acceptance received a lot of attention, but Giants representatives say that an "It Gets Better" ad was already in the works.

    The San Francisco Giants will be the first professional sports team to come together to create such an ad. No word yet on when the ad will be unveiled.  Source Here

  • Rainbow Delegation Included in June Advocate

    Matt Mazzei and the Rainbow Delegation are featured in the article 193 Reasons to Have Pride in 2011 in the June issue of The Advocate

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    Because
    THE RAINBOW DELEGATION IS EVERYWHERE
    Before he came out, [Fresno State] college student and violinist Matthew Mazzei did not think there were many gay people in his hometown of Fresno, Calif. But then a project he started by asking his friends to increase LGBT visibility has shown him just how gay and gay-friendly Fresno actually is. In only six months Mazzei and his team of friends have sent [50,000] rainbow bracelets around the world, regardless of the requester’s ability to pay (he does accept optional donations).

    The goal of his organization, Rainbow Delegation, is simple: to spread awareness through a visual reminder that gay people ywhere, from Salt Lake City to Ho Chi Minh City. “This project has given me a lot more confidence in myself,” he says. “It’s given me a passion and a focus for a cause. There are so many areas like Fresno where people of any age might feel rejected or marginalized. Now some kids will know they’re not alone.”

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  • May Spotlight: The Rainbow Delegation

    This month’s Spotlight is on….The Rainbow Delegation.
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    On a quiet street in Clovis, behind a nondescript blue door, a grassroots movement is swelling. But this is a different sort of grassroots movement. It isn’t about changing the world, affecting public policy, or fighting for rights. At least, not directly. What it is about, however, is community building.

     

    Matt Mazzei a grad student at Fresno state studying music, started the Rainbow Delegation last fall with the simple idea to give his friends a multi colored bracelet as a way of signaling their support for the LGBT community.
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    The bracelets were almost instantly popular, and more and more people started asking for them. In September, Matt started the website and began sending the rainbow bracelets to anyone who requested one, completely free of charge.

  • FUNDRAISER: This Saturday for The Living Room

    3075 N Maroa in Fresno...South of Shields on Maroa...

    For more info, call Victor at 559-430-9452

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  • Computer Games, the “Straight Male Gamer” , and Gay Romance.

    In case you missed it…
    Apparently a Straight Male Gamer got his boxers in a bunch over the fact that the game Dragon Age 2 was so gay inclusive that it gave gay romance options.  Speaking as the self titled “voice” of the Straight Male Gamer he started a forum to complain about how he was being treated unfairly.
    Sadly, his homophobia isn’t that uncommon… Happily the makers of Dragon Age 2 had the response of “get over it” and then proceeded to out this complainer as the bigot that he is and schooled him in a forum post that ought to go down in the history books. His well phrased comeback contains this gem:
    And the person who says that the only way to please them is to restrict options for others is, if you ask me, the one who deserves it least. 
    Awesome!
    To read the whole thing, click here.

  • CNN Anchor Comes Out Of The Closet

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    CNN anchor Don Lemon has come out. In a new book, "Transparent," Lemon talks about his life and his sexuality, and he revealed that he is gay in an interview with the New York Times. In a tweet on Sunday night, Lemon, who has anchored in a variety of roles for CNN, linked to the Times article and wrote, "wanted to be the firs to share with u. thanks for your support!!!"

    By coming out, Lemon becomes one of a tiny number of openly gay anchors on television; the list also includes Rachel Maddow and Thomas Roberts, both of MSNBC.

    READ MORE HERE

  • EQCA Town Hall in Fresno - Back to the Ballot?

    Equality California is heading back out for town hall meetings across the state to discuss a plan to bring Prop 8 back to the ballot in 2012. EQCA will be in Fresno on Monday, June 6th.

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    From EQCA...

    Should our community return to the ballot in 2012 to restore the freedom to marry and overturn Prop. 8? Delays in the federal case against Prop. 8 have sparked conversations about whether we should wait for the courts to restore the freedom to marry or whether we should seek to overturn Prop. 8 through a ballot measure in November 2012.

    Come and be part of the conversation! Equality California is holding a series of town halls across California and online for members of the community to come together and discuss the wisdom of moving forward with a ballot initiative. After getting the input of LGBT people and our friends and allies, Equality California will conduct polling to determine the likelihood of a measure passing, as well as speaking with coalition partners and providing other opportunities for input.

    No decisions have been made yet about whether to pursue a ballot measure. Please, join us and share your perspective. Help shape the decision.

    Facebook Event Page

    Monday, June 06

    06:30 PM - 08:30 PM

    Cost: free

    Location:  Map Weather

    Fresno City College

    Staff Dining Room

    Fresno, CA 93741

    Event Contact Info

    Andrea Shorter
    Email: Prop8@eqca.org
    Phone: 4155810005
    Website: Click to Visit

  • EVENT: UNISON - Fresno Pride Parade Dance Tent

    This year, during the Fresno Rainbow Pride Festival, your favorite local LGBT DJ's will be sharing the duties, pumping out the tunes at the UNISON DANCE TENT...

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    From the North Tower Circle...DJ Chris & DJ Evil Clown

    From The Express...DJ Dizzi, DJ Fresh & DJ Cookee

    From PURE...DJ Cookee

    From Club Legends...DJ Suzy Q

    From the Red Lantern...DJ Jimmy Mac

  • Weekly Round Up for Friday May 13th.

    Happy Friday the 13th!

    On this day in history, 1607 to be precise, Jamestown was founded. Nifty, eh? But perhaps you are more interested in more current events….

    Who follows hockey? Did you see the San Jose Shakrs last night? (Well done gentlemen!) Highlights here. Another interesting bit of hockey news… New York Rangers’ forward Sean Avery came out this week as a vocal supporter of the LGBT community. His announcement had some interesting results .

    For the first time ever, LGBT youth are specifically mentioned in a Senate bill to combat overall youth homelessness. Yesterday Sen. John Kerry (D-MA) introduced Reconnecting Youth to Prevent Homelessness Act—a bill designed to help homeless youth rejoin their families and escape life on the streets.

    Optimistic news out of Minnesota where a recent poll shows that a majority of Minnesotans oppose amending the state Constitution to ban same-sex marriage.

    Caroline Kennedy announces her support of same-sex marriage and urges Obama to do the same.

    On the 9th, the California State Senate passed the Equal Benefits bill (SB 117); this legislation will bar the State of California from entering into contracts in excess of $100,000 with businesses and other entities that deny equal benefits to the same-sex spouses of their employees. The bill has now moved on to the State Assembly.

    And lastly… not LGBT related, but a sign that the next generation is by far not nearly as uptight as the ones before, this endearing story about an English schoolboy who, due to vague language in the school’s dress code, has decided to wear a skirts in the hot summer months instead of the traditional pants. The best part of this story is the support of his schoolmates and the boy’s assertion that a boy in a skirt isn’t worth getting worked up about. “‘Wearing a skirt is just like wearing shorts with a gap in the middle. I don’t feel silly at all.”

    There you have it. Have a great, and safe, weekend!

  • EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW: Angelica Carpenter of The Arne Nixon Center

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    I visited the Arne Nixon Center at Fresno State, a department of the Henry Madden Library, located on the third floor of the South wing in the library, to sit down with its Curator, Angelica Carpenter. The Center is one of North America's leading resources for the study of children's and young adult literature. Recently, they’ve added an LGBTQ Book Collection through the generous donations of Michael Cart, Kathleen Horning and Nancy Silverrod.

    From their website...

    The Arne Nixon Center for the Study of Children’s Literature is celebrating the acquisition of nearly 500 LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer/ Questioning) themed books which have been given or promised in recent months. Donations from several nationally known librarians have resulted in quick growth for this genre within the Center’s larger collection, making it the largest such collection of LGBTQ books for young readers in any library in the United States.

    The combined collection includes picture books, young adult novels, non-fiction, graphic novels, board books, anthologies, advance reading copies, and some bilingual and translated titles. All are comparatively recent; the first book for teens to depict LGBTQ issues was I’ll Get There, It Better Be Worth the Trip, published in 1969.

    At a time when bullying, suicides, and the concept of “Don’t ask, don’t tell” are affecting the LGBTQ teen community, and mainstream society alike, these books offer hope and understanding that “It gets better.” They are not always available in school or public libraries.

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    Chris Jarvis: Tell me about how the Arne Nixon Center got started.

    Angelica Carpenter: Arne Nixon was a professor who taught children’s literature and storytelling on this campus for more than 30 years. He loved children’s books and to us that includes Young Adult books too. He was also quite the world traveler. He went to every reading convention and library convention there was, and wherever he went he either bought children’s books or people gave him children’s books.  He had 22,000 books, which he donated to us, but he’d never seen them in one place so he was very thrilled when he saw them here, all together.

    CJ: Did his donation include any LGBT books?

    AC: Yes, but there hadn’t been that many published at that time. He began collecting in the 1950’s. He really went after, for instance, African American books for kids, and they weren’t mainstream either until the 1970’s. He was born to a family in South Dakota who spoke Finnish. He spoke Finnish until he went to school, so he always had a kind of international take on things. As he got older he taught on an Indian reservation in Washington State, he went to the Sudan, he went to Finland, he went to Russia. He really like to see things from different points of view.

    CJ: And after he passed in 1995 he left an endowment.

    AC: He left a million dollars in addition to the books.

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    CJ: Tell me about how the LGBTQ collection.  

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    AC: Increasingly those books have become popular. I was looking through Michael Cart’s book about the genre, and I dug out the first two books he mentions…

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    I'll Get There It Better Be Worth The Trip and Man Without A Face . In the first one the dog dies and in the second one the cat dies. Then they went from killing the dog and the cat in the first two books to often killing the gay characters in later books. It’s kind of a trendy subject now for Young Adult literature. Michael Cart has been affiliated with the Arne Nixon Center longer than I have. Our previous Dean, Michael Gormond invited him to serve on the Senator’s Governing Committee, so Michael’s been here from the start. He’s considered the national expert on Young Adult literature.

    CJ: In general?

    AC: In general, and then beyond that, in LGBT specifically. Arne Nixon as well was very interested in Young Adult literature. For librarians, that’s just sort of a sub-category of children’s literature. Michael Cart also reviews books, and he’s given us more than 10,000 books in the last 11 years.

  • VIDEO: Las Vegas Time Lapse

    Check out a cool time lapse of Las Vegas…


    24 Hours of Neon from Philip Bloom on Vimeo.

  • VIDEO: The Daily Show on SF Not Being Gay Enough

    The Daily Show interviews Dr. Tim Seelig about San Francisco not being in the Top Ten Gay Cities in America. Seelig was just in Fresno on Sunday April 10th, conducting the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus at the Satellite Student Union at Fresno State. Toward the end of the video you can see the chorus performing one of the songs they performed here in Fresno...(the event was a fundraiser for Gay Central Valley & Bulldog Pride Fund)

  • PRIDE MONTH: COMING OUT STORIES - Kelly Lynn Campbell

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    "Mom,

    I know I have been a pain lately, and I think you deserve an explanation of what I have been up to. I really don't know where to start but you need to know that I am happy and have no plans to change my current life course.

    I know you have heard rumors that I am gay, this is not true, I have told you that I have Gender Dysphoria and that I felt I should have been a girl. The fact is that I am now living as a woman and am taking hormones. It is my intent to have sex reassignment surgery at some point in the future.

    My name is Kelly now and I am going to be changing it legally this year. Please understand that I love you all and it has taken me almost a year to tell you this because I know it will upset you.

    I will be happy to answer any questions you may have but I will not get into an argument about my life.

    With love,

    Your Daughter,

    Kelly Lynn Campbell"

    Send your COMING OUT STORIES to chris@gaycentralvalley.org

  • Celebrating Local Heroes: THIS WEDNESDAY - May 11th at Fresno State

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    The Central California Alliance and the Bulldog Pride Fund, with the assistance of United Student Pride, proudly present “Celebrating Local Heroes” on Wed. May 11th at the Smittcamp Alumni House on the Fresno State campus. The evening's activities begins at 5:30 PM with a reception, followed by introductions, short presentations and a Q and A session.

    The greater-Fresno-area community is blessed to have three GLBTQ activists with ties to Fresno State that have been recognized nationally for their tireless efforts on behalf of our community:

    ROBIN McGEHEE EQUAL and Fresno State alumna
    • MATTHEW MAZZEI -- founder of the Rainbow Delegation and Fresno State student
    • ANDREW McINTOSH -- NCAA Athlete, Coach and Educator; and Fresno State graduate student

    Come hear their stories filled with struggles, despair, thoughts of suicide, as well as success and triumph. You will be uplifted and proud for these relentless and persistent heroes that are living and working amongst all of us. Yes, here in Fresno: The Greatest Little City in the U.S.A.

    Advance Tickets: $5 Student / $10 CCA Members / $15 Non CCA Members
    Event Day Tickets: $5 more per person/category
    Purchase advance tickets online: www.bulldogpride.org
    On facebook: http://www.facebook.com/ccafresno#!/event.php?eid=163220697068705

  • Send Us Your Coming Out Stories...

    The Fresno Pride Parade & Festival is less than a month away, on June 4th. June is national Pride month...

    For those of us who've been through the process of coming out, it's vital to share our stories in order to empower others in the community to do the same, and to let them know the feelings and fears they experience are shared by others. Mostly, we need to let them know it's possible to live an honest and fulfilling life. Life is always better outside the closet.

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    Last year we sought your Coming Out Stories and received many touching and emotional accounts of how difficult the experience of coming out can be. We're continuing this effort in hopes of putting together a collection of coming out stories to have available at our local Fresno LGBT Community Center.

    To commemorate the upcoming Pride month we're asking for your stories again...nothing too difficult, it can be as short as a paragraph or as long as you like. We also welcome videos if you'd prefer to tell your story that way...Your stories will be posted on our websites and included in the collection. Please send a photo as well.

    Send your story or video to chris@gaycentralvalley.org

  • Local Event: Protest at Chick-Fil-A

    Today local LGBT community members and allies joined groups all across the country in protests aimed to educate the public about the donation practices of Chick-fil-A, a national fast food company.

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  • Weekly Round Up for Friday May 6th.

    Happy Friday!

    Mother’s day is this Sunday. Last minute flowers can be found at most grocery stores… and don’t forget how far a hand-made card and a Starbucks gift certificate can go!  (Not that any of us forgot or procrastinated or anything. Right? Right? Ahem, moving on…)

    In case you missed it, this week had a lot of interesting LGBT news worth noting.

    Good news for the gay couple in New Jersey who were being threatened with deportation. The deportation proceedings were halted at the last minute by the attorney general who plans to review the case.

    Rep. Pete Stark of California introduced the Every Child Deserves a Family Act to the House on Tuesday. The bill would prohibit organizations receiving federal funds from denying adoptions or foster care placements to prospective LGBT parents.

    The Huffington Post ran an interesting article this week updating us on the LGBT fight going on in Africa.

    Former President Clinton came out... in support for same-sex marriage!

    Kamala Harris, our state’s Attorney General, came out... against the state's same-sex marriage ban, this time telling the state Supreme Court the proponents of successful ballot initiatives do not have the right to defend their measures in court.

    Speaking of gay marriage rights, Brazil's Supreme Court just ruled  that same-sex couples should be allowed the same financial and social rights as different-sex couples.

    The 5th Annual CMI LGBT Community Survey is now underway. Participation in this survey gives important feedback to our LGBT community media and organizations, and provides valid data to companies interested in serving our needs, sponsoring our charities, and supporting their LGBT employees. Last year, the survey was taken by over 45,000 LGBT citizens of 100+ countries! Get involved, let your voice be heard!

    Barbara A. Lenk, a veteran Appeals Court judge, won confirmation to a seat on the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court, becoming the first openly gay judge to serve on the state’s highest judicial body.

    And lastly, in the category of not related but too funny to ignore... this video of a conversation with the dog promises to get you LOLing.

    There you have it… have a great, and safe, weekend!

  • Upcoming Event: Celebrating Local Heroes

     

    Next Wednesday at Fresno State the Central California Alliance and the Bulldog Pride Fund will host "Celebrating Local Heroes"“  Featuring Robin McGehee (GetEQUAL), Matthew Mazzei (The Rainbow Delegation), and Andrew McIntosh (former NCAA athlete, current Fresno State grad student), the evening promises to be educational and a rallying point for activists and community members.

    More though than simply a “preaching to the choir” opportunity, this event will showcase the variety of differences in our community. We can’t forget, we are an eclectic bunch that holds ground on all points of the “activist” spectrum. From grassroots, to streamlined established organizations… From quiet support, to loud demands for equality, our community has it all.  Next week’s celebration is a way for us to honor that diversity through some of the people who embody it. We are all headed to the same goal, but celebrating the different ways in which we get there is not only essential to our eventual arrival but also key in helping keep the momentum going by capturing the imagination and creative spark of the entire community.

    Let's meet the heroes!

  • Commenting returns to Gay Fresno!

        Since our redesign, we've been unable to accept comments/feedback directly on the site.  Today, this changes and we welcome you back to comment “like” and interact with our articles.

    On our old site, Gay Fresno had its own commenting system.  While this offered the ability to customize, it also lead to comment spam and required readers to create a new account to have a sense of community.

    We have now partnered with a company called Disqus to provide comments. It offers our readers a lot of flexibility, is used on over 750,000 websites and has over 35 million participants.  Chances are you’ve already left a comment elsewhere on this system and never knew it, such as the Fresno Bee online.


    We are confident that Disqus is the best commenting system currently available and we hope to see many of you commenting right away!  .

    Thanks for reading,

    Jason Scott
    Gay Central Valley

    Questions/Problems? Please Let me know.

  • Website QUEERTY Is Back Online

    Queerty.com which vanished a couple of weeks ago, has been resurrected by   Gay Cities .

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    From Queerty…

    For a moment it appeared Queerty would fall to the wayside, after a disagreement in strategy with the site’s contracted operators, who decided to change their business focus. The outpouring of support following that announcement showed just how much Queerty’s readers wanted the site to continue, and how it became an irreplaceable resource for so many.

    And so it will remain.

    I trust GayCities to carry on Queerty’s mission, which was always to inform and entertain. And the GayCities team recognizes as much as we did that Queerty is nothing without its readers.

    From Gay Cities…

    While we are committed to maintaining the best of Queerty, we also recognize that you have demanded change. In recent months the Queerty patented wit devolved into predictable snark, eviscerating everyone and everything in its path. Some of the comments simply piled on. We will maintain the independent voice at all cost, going with a vengeance after the powerful, the hypocritical and the just plain foolish. But now we’ll also strive for a better sense of journalistic balance and fairness.

    In other words we’re going to keep afflicting the comfortable; only now we’ll take care to comfort the afflicted as well.

    As always, let us know exactly what’s on your mind…

  • NYT: Fit To Rule On Prop 8

    Shortly after Judge Walker made his historic decision in the California Prop 8 case, there was an uproar when his sexuality was disclosed. Those supporting Prop 8 came out saying that since he’s apparently gay, how can he be impartial in the case?

    It went away for a while then came back when Walker came out himself, publically. Now another push is underway to disqualify Walker and ultimately, his decision, based on these grounds.

    Dustin Lance Black sent out an email blast yesterday urging the community to rail against the current movement.

    Let’s face it, the entire thing is ludicrous. There’s no basis for disqualifying Walker based on his sexuality, and that was stated over and over the first time it reared its ugly head. No one saw any integrity in the argument and no one does now. We can all really let this one go and concentrate on other things far more important.

    An editorial in the New York Times said it well today…

    After the trial, Judge Walker said he is gay and involved in a long-term relationship. Last week, Proposition 8’s lawyers argued that the ruling should be tossed out because he had had a duty to recuse himself, or at least disclose the relationship at the start of the case.

    The claim is bogus. It is well established that personal characteristics, like race, sex, ethnicity, religion or sexual orientation, do not by themselves invoke the rule that judges must step aside if their “impartiality might reasonably be questioned.”

    Our justice system relies on trusting members of the nation’s diverse bench to put aside their personal characteristics and abide by their duty of even-handedness. Any other approach would invite foolish and unacceptable results — female judges being kept from hearing rape or sexual discrimination cases, or black judges from hearing cases involving racial bias or civil rights.

    READ THE FULL ARTICLE HERE

  • VIDEO: The Kids Are Listening" - ABA Launches Anti-Bullying Site

    The American Bar Association has launched its own anti-bullying initiative, "The Kids Are Listening."

    The Opening Doors Project works to make life better for LGBTQ youth today. The project is dedicated to training and supporting the legal and social service professionals on the front lines to ensure that LGBTQ foster youth have the support they deserve and the rights they demand.

    Through on-the-ground trainings, local task forces and comprehensive research and training material The Opening Doors Project provides the legal community with the advocacy tools they need to successfully represent LGBTQ youth in foster care.

    The Kids Are Listening Website


  • VIDEO: ABC News Virtual Raid on Osama

  • "I Am Fresno State" 2011 on YouTube

    The 2011 entries of the 5th annual “I AM FRESNO STATE!” student video contest have been posted to youtube!

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    SEE: http://www.youtube.com/iamfresnostate

  • What does it mean to be an ally?

     

    Last week I attended the Fresno City College Pride Celebration.  Unsurprisingly, I heard a lot of talk about equality, about the need for change, about hate crime statues, about the overcoming of challenges. All those things were great to talk about, but one thing really resonated with me: the call for our allies to step up their game.

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    First, let me set the stage. The president of the Veteran’s club was the first on the microphone. “Happy Pride Day!” he called out. The audience cheered and a few hecklers off to the left started doing what hecklers do. Upon his mention of the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, the hecklers booed and then jeered even louder. To his credit, he managed to finish his speech, but by then most of the audience’s attention had moved to the side of the stage.  A rather loud altercation took place, and ultimately campus security had to diffuse the situation by removing some of the more vocal harassers.

    And so it was to a slightly distracted audience (the altercation and campus security intervention taking place for much of its entirety) that Jordan Burns, member of the Diversity Club, gave his speech.

  • The Eagle Tavern In SF Closes It's Doors

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    The Eagle Tavern, a gay bar in San Francisco for 30 years and a favorite of many, particularly the bear community, has closed. The last day of the current bar was April 30th.

    There's a possibility the bar ownership may be taken up by someone else...

    There was a time when many American cities had “Eagle” bars, a sort of label for gay-friendly. A few remain, including one in Dallas, where owner Mark Frazier contemplated buying the San Francisco outpost from its two owners, John Gardiner and Joe Banks.

    But negotiations with the building’s landlord faltered after rent was increased by 20 percent, and Frazier backed out. Bar manager Ron Hennis also expressed interest in ownership but declined requests for an interview and said in a Facebook message that he won’t discuss ongoing negotiations.

    READ MORE HERE...

  • VIDEO: President Obama On Osama Bin Laden's Death

  • A Word From the Valley: Change

    A Word from the Valley (2011, Article 2)

    After much consideration, I’ve decided that the word this week shall be: change.  There are a plethora of changes being made to the world in various arenas, and over the last three decades, I’ve seen more changes than most of the decades before me.  We’ve watched the end of the cold war, the failure of trickle-down economics, the fall of the Berlin wall, Desert Shield, Desert Storm,  the blooming of the age of technology, the creation of the Internet,  the dissolving of the Soviet Union, the split of Czechoslovakia, the death of many celebrities, and the rise of YouTube sensations.  I’ve seen red M n Ms replaced with beige ones only to be replaced with red ones once more.  I’ve watched Saturday morning cartoons fade and return and fade again.  Dating has been replaced with online hookup sites and matchmaking services.  The need to go to a grocery store has passed us by, as they can now be ordered and shipped with little to no effort.  Families no longer head to the drive in for the latest flick; they just have to wait for someone to upload a torrent of the latest bootleg Hollywood hit.  Of course, I can’t forget September 11 and the justice that was served a decade later with the recent death of Osama bin Laden.  I never thought I’d live to see the day when an African American would become president, when a transgender women would become a federal judge, or a Muslim would become a presidential advisor.  Yep, life has definitely changed since I was a boy.

    I could spend hours talking about all the political and physical changes that the world has gone through in the last few decades, but that really wasn’t the purpose for the article.  Growing up in the country and now living in Wonder Valley, I was afforded the opportunity to see the transformation of many of nature’s creatures.  None was ever so mesmerizing to me than that of the butterfly.  It never ceased to amaze me that a creature so tiny and misunderstood as a little green caterpillar could change into a butterfly.  The caterpillar’s life is not an easy one.  From the moment they hatch, they become the subject of predatory creatures and environmental hazards.  Birds mock them from the boughs of trees only to swoop in and devour them.  Pesticides lay in wait to take their fragile lives.  The caterpillars skin is thin and frail, so much so that even the tiniest nick can be lethal.  Winds and rains ravage their bodies, and almost everything around them is a potential threat.  At some point, all of that hardship toughens them, surrounding them in a shell…a cocoon.  It is during this time that the butterfly is at its most vulnerable and most reliant on the world to survive.  If it is protected, nourished, cared for, and loved, it will remain intact allowing a powerful metamorphosis to occur.  Within months, a butterfly emerges and takes to the heavens.  Is it safe?  Not really, but more so than it was in its youth.  It’s grown and changed, learned and empowered.

    This is the plight and power of the transgender community.  So many of them grow up with struggles much like those of the caterpillar.  They are born not entirely themselves.  The emotions within cause them grief, an inner voice that mocks their bodies, and for some becomes their undoing.  They live with ridicule and shame, heaped upon them by those around them.  They are bullied and pushed around for being different.  For some, it becomes too much and their lives end far too soon.  Like the caterpillar, many of them are fragile emotionally, still fighting within themselves to reconcile their mind to their bodies.  They live in ambiguity, between worlds, never really having a place…not because they aren’t welcome, but because they are waiting to become who they truly are.  When the transgender person realizes that they are something more, when they know they can belong, they begin their transformation.  Their cocoon is created from the adversity they knew as a child.  They must rely on their true friends and real family to protect them and encourage them.  They must draw nourishment from the boughs of determination and perseverance.  When they finally reach the point of discovering all that they are, when the pupa of loyalty and kindness cracks open, they emerge a butterfly…that most beautiful thing that they were born to be.

    Pay attention, my transgender friends.  Some of you are caterpillars.  Some of you are in cocoons.  Some of you are on the brink of spreading your wings.  Do not sell yourselves short.  Do not be afraid of who you are and what you can become.  Everything that you have been through and all that you are going through has culminated in this moment.  Your trials and tribulations have empowered you.  When you spread your wings to fly, know that you do so with the strength of a lifetime behind you.  You have the potential to soar to heights that many of us could only dream of reaching.  You have the unique ability to see the world from a point of view that few on this planet share.  Distance and time are no longer your boundaries for you are liberated in the moment that you accept yourself.  The body you dwell within is a but a shell and holds no limit over your mind and spirit, and that is where your true power lies.  Use it! Wield it!  Make the world tremble at your dedication and strength of conviction.  Of all the groups of people on this planet, you more than other have the potential of living the words of Mahatma Ghandi: “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

    I challenge you today to find a picture of a breath-taking butterfly and carry it with you as a symbol of freedom, change, and potential.  When you feel down and troubled, you look at that butterfly and remember my words.

    This week’s word inspired recipe is:

    Butterfly Pie

    1 package Duncan Hines Golden Sugar Cookie Mix
    1 package (8 oz.) cream cheese
    1/3 cup of white sugar
    ½ teaspoon vanilla
    6 to 7 of your favorite fruits, sliced (about a cup of each)

    Prepare your cookie dough per the package instructions.  Shape the dough into one large cookie and place on an ungreased pizza pan.  Bake at 350 for 14 to 16 minutes (until the edges are light brown).  Allow it to cool completely.

    While your cookie dough is in the oven, prepare the filling by mixing the cream cheese, sugar, and vanilla.  Mix thoroughly and allow to reach room temperature.  After your cookie dough has cooled, frost the cookie with the cream cheese filling. Refrigerate until chilled.

    While your pie is chilling, slice your fruits.  Be sure to slightly dry the fruit slices with a paper before placing them on your cookie pie.  Once sliced and the pie is chilled, arrange the fruits on the cookie to look like a butterfly or flower.  Refrigerate until ready to serve.

  • BREAKING NEWS: Osama Bin Laden Killed by U.S. Operation

    Courtesy Huffington Post

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    Osama Bin Laden has been killed, through a U.S. military operation.

    Osama Bin Laden is dead, President Obama will announce, according to multiple television networks.

    DEVELOPING...

    Authorities around the world are now gearing up with increased security, concerned about the backlash from terrorists...

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