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So I think this may be a common issue with many gay men like myself. I seem to always fall for my straight male friends. What do you do and or say when you are about to tell your straight Friend that you like them? Now this friend is really open and kind, I just don't want to ruin a good friendship with me having to get something off my chest. Do you have any advice on letting my friend know my feelings?

Brom:

I can't count the number of friends I know who have fallen for a straight guy, especially their best straight friend. Lets face it, some straight guys are really attractive! I think why we become so attracted to our straight friends is because they're our friends. It's easy to become attracted to someone you have a good time with.

I think its important to remember two facts though: 1) You don't want to jeopardize the friendship in anyway, and 2) Your friend is straight. I know its really easy to imagine him changing just for you, or maybe just not coming out to you, but chances are if he had an attraction to guys he would have told you by now.

If you don't want to jeopardize your friendship with him I would suggest not letting him know and that you try to move on. There are plenty of gay men out there who are just as attractive.

	05-15-2008 20:12
	I think if this is your friend, and if you feel you should tell them, you should. There is no point in letting it eat at you. And if this is a true friend, the worst that can happen is them tell you they are sorry but it won't work out, things may be awkward for a short period, but it maybe worth a try. I myself has been in a situation like this and told my friend, he just told me that its not gonna work, oh well, our friendship is still just as strong as it ever was. it really just boils down to what you feel is best. And how well you know this guy, and how strong your friendship is. good luck with whatever you choose.

pencil

	05-15-2008 13:59
	Good Advice 123 can't believe someone would just say "give it up"?? Get a grip. The friend is STRAIGHT!! Of course gay men are going to find straight men they're attracted to, there are a lot more of them than there are of us. That doesn't change the fact that he's straight! Maybe 123 would also say it doesn't matter if your friend is married, go for it anyway. You can't have everyone you want.

	05-15-2008 09:41
	Good Advice Harsh advice, cannot believe that someone would just say "Give it up." That's not even advice, that's opinion. Really bad advice.

123

	05-13-2008 13:20
	The Advise... I Must Say That That Is The Best Thing To Do When One Falls For Out Straight friends... In fact That Is What I've Done...It Takes Time To Get Over Them But, It Is Not Impossible. And yes there Are Plenty Of Non-Straight Guys out There! And All We Need To Do To Find One Is To: Get out Of Our Houses/Apartments Or Were We Spend Most Of Our Time And Look For Those Places Were Non-Straight Guys Are At!

-Angel-

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