Question:
I have a serious question, but here it goes.
In the past, I have had many opportunities to hook up with people and have sex. But for some reason or another I turned them down. I either found them uninteresting, unattractive, or I didn't feel in the mood.
I am almost 20, and I'm still a virgin.
I'm extremely open minded when it comes to sex.

Here is my question: Do I wait until I find the right someone? Or hook up with the next person who I seem to like? I ask because at times I go back and forth on this question. I've heard sex is best when it with someone you like, but I don't think sex necessarily has to involve a relationship. I am looking for a relationship too...a virgin looking for a relationship....it almost sounds like TV show, no?
What should I do?
Play the field, and when the time is right go for it? Or bang the next guy I feel interested in?
Sex is not everything....this I know. But it seems to be on my mind an awful lot these days. Experience and thoughts are everything in life, but I want to make the right choices for the right reasons.
Any thoughts are welcome.
Thanks.

S.

Answer:
Dear S,

In my uh. . . .experience, sex is usually better when you are interested in the person. I waited to lose my virginity until my first boyfriend. However, hooking up shouldn't rule out a connection with someone. I know several couple who are in happy long-term relationships that started out as one night stands.

What I do know is that you will know when it feels right. If you decide to wait to have a relationship, thats good. If you decide to hook up with the first guy you find interesting and attractive, that's good too! But don't rule out the possibility of a deeper connection with him just because its a hook up.

Safe & Happy Hunting ;),

QueerGuy

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cj  - Life Is For Living   |2008-07-30 12:40:59 The only "right choice" on this issue is to practice SAFE SEX EVERY TIME. Outside of that, we all make bad choices occasionally. Yes, sex is better with someone you care about, but while we all enjoy fine dining, we also go through the drive thru once in a while. Sex is an important, healthy and satisfying part of life. Don't go with someone you don't like, but stop putting so many conditions on one incident of sex. Most people never find the perfect person, and believe me, your first relationship will NOT be your last. I personally think waiting to have sex until you're in a relationship is a huge mistake. You're confused about sex for the very reason that you haven't had it yet. Take the mystery out of it by doing it!! Do you really want to go into a relationship knowing nothing about sex? Lighten up. Just one rule. SAFE SEX EVERY TIME. javas...

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